I do! I do!
Maybe you know what I’m talking about. You are no longer on track. You have over-scheduled yourself. You might feel incapable of what is coming up. You could have emotions that are taking over. Maybe an unexpected event has taken a toll on you.
So, let’s name it. We need to be completely open to seeing it for what it is.
Say it again . . . overwhelm
Since we are not our feelings, we do not say “I am overwhelmed.” Instead we say “I am in overwhelm.”
You are not your feelings, you simply experience them. You are in the state of “overwhelm”. When you make this subtle change in language, it feels so much better! It feels like there is movement and it will pass. So, first rule of thumb, name it but name it in a way that leaves you experiencing your feelings rather than being your feelings.
I am in overwhelm.
Phew. Finally, I can be honest about what is going on for me. As a coach and speaker, I sometimes feel that I am not “allowed” to feel overwhelm. Sometimes others expect that coaches don’t get those feelings because they are coaches! We can support others through their overwhelm so we have the tools to get through, right?
Well, mostly, but not always. Sometimes not right away. Sometimes we need our own coaches to support us!
The last couple of weeks I have found myself feeling this sense of overwhelm. I have a lot of great things going on but eventually the time runs out! Yes, can you believe it?!? The time actually runs out for me, too. Rats.
Well, reality says that I only have so much time each and every day and how do I choose to spend those hours?
When I have a client that comes to me about overwhelm, we first explore what kind of overwhelm it is. Is it because you feel incapable, you have overscheduled yourself (most common), emotions have taken over, unexpected event snatcher, etc. Where is the overwhelm coming from? Once we decide this, then we can look at a plan.
Since the most common is from being overscheduled (for me, too), the first thing we start talking about is priorities. What is in your life that we can start shifting and adjusting how much time you dedicate to it? We look at the activities that are getting you the most results ~ personally and professionally. Maybe it’s time for a priority break. Go back and remember why you are doing what you committed to in the first place. Allow yourself to reconnect with the life you desire and see how these commitments fit.
As I remind myself of this process, I look at everything that is on my plate right now . . .
Self Care ~ nutrition, working out, reading, journaling
CAP ~ organization for young women
Coaching Classes I am taking and teaching
Networking ~ leadership role to boot!
Social Media ~ facebook, twitter, blog
Website ~ putting together content for new sight
Cleanse ~ leading a cleanse
Business ~ wearing my business owner hat
. . . I LOVE all of it! Good news / bad news?? After looking at everything on my plate right now, I do love all of it. I have already prioritized my life to match my purpose and passion. What I am looking at is a lot on my plate and only so much time! I ask myself, do I need to go back and take a priority break? No, not really. Everything that I have committed to I am so passionate about.
Well, coach, now what? I remind myself that sometimes it’s okay to feel a sense of overwhelm. I remind myself that everything will get done when it needs to. It always does. I remind myself how blessed and grateful I am that my life is filled with purpose and passion. That’s incredible!
I remind myself that every now and then I need to slow down and breathe. I remind myself that it’s okay to be open and honest and ask for help, too. Are there household tasks or projects that I can get support around? Of course.
To spend time with my family, I tie them in with some of my self-care. Maybe we go to the gym together or for a walk or a bike ride. I am still fulfilling self-care, but also spending time with them.
Sometimes, I grab a supportive friend and we go for a walk and we just talk about what is going on. In that moment, all I need is an ear to hear what is going on and know that I am supported.
The next time you are in overwhelm, ask yourself first, why am I feeling this way? And second, what can I do about it? Also know that no matter what, I will support you on this journey! We are never alone.