I was having a conversation with a “friend” and “mentor” the other day and we were talking about labels. I have many labels that I have come to love and embrace:
One of the labels that I have questions about is “coach”. I started my own coaching business and yet, I am not a huge fan of that word, in general.
We all have filters with which we use to decide what each word or label means to us. Our experiences, relationships, family and friends all contribute to these filters. We also have a quality scale in our minds to determine where that person will fall based on our experiences with that label.
So often, the label we put on ourselves can hinder others from wanting more information. Yet, at the same time, it may encourage someone else.
As we walked and talked about this, my friend said that rather than attaching a label to what he does, he prefers to just have a conversation about how he can help the other person.
Can you hear the click? Yep, that was the light bulb turning on for me!
A conversation. Let’s just visit and discuss what your needs are and if I am the right person to fit what you are looking for.
Let’s get back to the basics.
A conversation. Yes, I really do like this concept. Instead of you guessing what I do based on a label that I have given myself, let’s talk. Rather than me telling you that I am a coach, you can, based on our conversation, create a space in your mind for where I fit.
I am unique.
You are unique.
“Remember always that you not only have a right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
The idea of a conversation embraces my unique qualities and personality. It allows you to get to know me and who I AM rather than guessing based on a label. As I embrace this concept, it will allow me to really SEE you, too!
Where do I go from here? I’m not sure, yet. I know it will continue to unfold as I move forward.
I will make a conscious decision to first open myself up to a conversation, a discussion.
A conversation. Because I am unique and they are unique. Labels don’t always serve and I choose to understand the person rather than the label.