If you want to quickly get nowhere fast, make an assumption about what someone is or isn’t thinking.
That’s what I did – for 33 years.
I so expertly allowed myself to live in judgment expecting to receive the words “I’m proud of you” from my Mom. It wasn’t until I was pushed to gently examine this belief that I explored it and decided to let it go. In the moment of letting it go, I was given the words that I had waited to hear. What a blessing.
Or was it?
What I realize now is that although I did end up hearing the words I so desperately longed to hear, I didn’t learn how to be proud of myself that day. Instead, I learned to let go of holding judgment on how I felt someone else should act.
What I really need to learn and am learning right now is to be proud of myself.
For so many years I have been critical of what I am doing, what I’m not doing, what I did, what I didn’t do, what I’m thinking about, what I’m not thinking about, etc. For so many years I was not aware or allowed myself to embrace all of the goodness of my life. For so many years I had been looking outside of myself when I needed to look within.
As I look at my life with this new realization, I am willing to explore where I am proud. It is definitely not the easiest because I (like most of you) wasn’t taught to look at areas where I rock. Yet, it is so necessary.
Even as I sit here thinking about this, thinking about my rockin’ areas, I find myself second guessing.
I can say this, I know with every fiber of my being that I am great at supporting young women. There. I said it. I ROCK at supporting young women and I’m proud of myself.
Now, let’s rock together. What are YOU proud about? Please share so we can all happy dance in your honor!
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