“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heal that has crushed it.” ~ Mark Twain
In a recent interview I saw with Dr. Wayne Dyer, he was asked about his life and whether or not his past bothered him with everything he had to go through when he was younger? Like many of us, he struggled with quite a few difficulties and challenges as he was growing up. He was abandoned by his father and lived as an orphan for many years, among other things.
His answer to the question was no, he wasn’t bothered by it. In fact, he was appreciative of everything he had to experience. He talked about forgiveness being one of the biggest lessons we are here to learn.
In fact, in one of his most recent books Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life – Living The Wisdom Of The Tao he dedicates the book to his father stating, “For my father, Melvin Lyle Dyer. Even though I’ve never known you, after thoroughly digesting the Tao, I finally get it! It is-and always was-all perfect. I love you.”
I, too, know what he speaks of and greatly agree in the importance of forgiveness. Because I have blamed, I did/do have room for forgiveness. In order to learn the lesson about how to forgive and why forgiving is important, I, too, had to go through my experiences. By going through the experiences I went through, I can fully and do fully embrace the life I’m living now. (Here’s one of my stories of letting go and ultimately forgiving after years of blame.)
Am I done forgiving? Not likely. Forgiveness is something that continually progresses throughout our lives. It’s like digging a hole to the center of the Earth. As I continue digging, diving into my life and ultimately growing, I continue to uncover areas where forgiveness is an option.
Often, the forgiveness that can happen is toward myself. I find myself forgiving myself for buying into some misconception or belief about the way society told me I was supposed to live.
I have come to realize, thankfully, that every single moment and every experience from my past has brought me exactly where I am today and for that I am very grateful. As I take a deep breath and really hold this truth, I am easily able to forgive actions from my past. I have a peaceful heart because the past makes today possible. The past has brought me to this truth that I am living today.
I encourage you to look back on your life. Where have you blamed? Is there room to forgive? What might happen if you allowed yourself to forgive?
Please share your thoughts. Forgiveness isn’t always easy, that’s why it’s one of the top lessons for us to learn. I’d love to hear your story about forgiveness – it’s a life changer!