“What if the ONLY resolution you made was to love yourself more?” – Cheryl Richardson
By now I’m sure you’ve seen a handful of posts that either support resolutions, encourage you to change, or tell you why you shouldn’t commit to anything specific – they say you’ll fail so why bother. I could go on and on and rant about all of those points and instead of getting caught up in that mess of the day, I just encourage you to resolve/decide/commit/intend – whatever word that suits you – to LOVE YOURSELF MORE.
One thing I’ve learned in the past year is that no matter what I commit to changing or doing, it is for naught if I haven’t even learned to fully love and accept myself – as is. I believe we get so caught up in wanting to have more, be more, do more and in that focus we lose sight of what matters most – love. And that love must start with ourselves. If I can’t even fully love and accept myself for who I am how can I 1) love anyone else fully and completely and 2) expect that anyone else would love me fully and completely.
The answer – I can’t. It must start with love of myself.
Loving ourselves is not always an easy task, but it is definitely necessary. In order to do this, though, we have to be totally honest – in all areas – which I think is what frightens us most. If I commit to loving and accepting myself fully and completely, then I’m also committing to loving and accepting all of my perceived flaws and things that could be viewed as less than desirable. This is what scares us most. In order to love all of us, we have to acknowledge all of us.
When I was in Bali, writing my book, I was really struggling with a deep seeded fear that I hadn’t ever faced. What I realized after was that unless and until I faced it, I would never be able to fully love and accept myself – as is. It took voicing this fear, sharing it with others, allowing myself to be embraced by it, until I was able to move through it and let go. It doesn’t mean that it will never come up again, it just means that it doesn’t have the grip on me that it once did. After the shift in Bali, I realized that for the first time in my life I could and did love and accept myself fully and completely.
Now that I can feel that love of myself, I can share it more fully with others. Now that I have that love, I can embrace abundance in other areas of my life. Now that I can be in love with the woman I am today, I can move forward knowing I have a voice to share. For me, loving myself more has led to a more fulfilled life – it’s filling up with every other desire I could imagine. I don’t need to set resolutions because through love, I have all that I need.
Knowing what miracles love can bring, I truly hope you allow yourself to also experience the blessings. Start small, if you need to. You must just start. Start loving yourself and watch the rest of the amazing world unfold around you. As you love yourself, you automatically spread that love to others. As you shine brighter, you encourage others to do the same.
Make a Difference . . . Lead with Love