“We accept the love we think we deserve.” – Steven Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
“Gah!! When life is going one direction and suddenly something shifts and you’re not sure what’s next, what do you do?
For me, it’s all about being fluid and living like water – just going with the flow.”
I find it fascinating how a seemingly innocent and deliberately vague post can stir some direct emotion and feeling in others. I watch quietly as others process this knowing that I have likely held up a mirror for them and these words can be, and are, interpreted in a variety of ways – the way in which they most resonate with.
I received a few comments, in general supportive and kind or sharing their words regarding how they deal with a shift. I also received a handful of messages – people with good intentions wondering what was going on, is everything okay, and is there something they need to know. In addition to the primarily supportive comments, I was the recipient of a few negative ones – questioning “why do you share everything” and “things change, maybe you need to move on.”
In light of these responses, I thought I’d share even more about what is going on and why, in fact, I DO share the way I do.
First, I am a student. No, I’m not currently enrolled in a college or university that you don’t know about. I’m not taking any official language classes for my next big trip. I am, however, a student of life. And side note…hopefully I’ll be selected in Marie Forleo‘s B-School through the scholarship program so I can be a student with her! Yay for me – #winBSCHOOL I digress, though.
So, back to being a student – what does that have to do with sharing, you might ask. When I share, I often (almost always) ask for feedback or thoughts of others. As others share their thoughts, and especially when we disagree, I’m able to test my thoughts and beliefs. It’s not that often you hear someone say, “I’m going to put myself out there and see what happens, knowing I’ll likely get tested.” For me, I do this everyday.
I share from my heart and a place of vulnerability. I share knowing others might not approve. I share because it’s me.
The second reason I share the way I do is because I am a teacher. No, I’m not like many of my amazing friends that go to work everyday and teach our future generation of leaders. In fact, there isn’t much that is traditional about me and my teaching. No, I’m very different than that. I’m just a girl, a next door wife or mom that has found a way to change her life and I’m dedicated to sharing it with others that wish to change as well. #leadwithlove
Marianne Williamson shares it best in her quote, A Deepest Fear. Near the end of the quote she says,
“As we let our own Light shine,
we consciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.”
What I’ve learned is that we all have something amazing to offer. For me, it’s my story and my learning. It’s about taking the life I used to lead and live and as I continue growing and changing, sharing all of those steps with you – the good, the bad, the ugly. That means I’m vulnerable and open and it is my intention that as I’m liberated from my own fear, you’ll realize you can be liberated from your fear. As I’m stepping forward and sharing, through teaching, you’ll realize you are not alone. (You can read the quote in its entirety. I encourage you to do so – it’s my favorite!!)
In short, the reason I share and share so openly and vulnerably with the KNOWING that sometimes it’s going to annoy and frustrate people is because I’m here to be a light. I’m here to be a beacon showing that for us regular gals, living next door, we can do more with our lives. We don’t have to settle and even if you don’t want to do anything “huge”, you can still lead a life you absolutely love.
In spite of what others might think, I will continue sharing and I’ll continue being open and vulnerable. I’ve made a commitment and I’ve put my stake in the ground. I’m here to support others in living from a place of love – starting with yourself.
Of course, I’d be remiss if I didn’t ask for your thoughts, comments and feedback. Please share. And if there is ANY way that I can support you further, please reach out to me directly >>> info [at] inspiringradiance [dot] com
I truly look forward to connecting!
Make a Difference . . . Lead with Love