“Sooner or later in life, we will all take our own turn being in the position we once had someone else in.” – Ashly Lorenzana
I would add a follow up to the quote above…. “Sooner or later in life, we will all take our own turn being in the position we once had someone else in”…you choose your position through your actions. Choose carefully!
Mother’s Day 2014 my daughter (then 17 years old) came home and announced that as soon as she had enough money, she was going to buy me a good bra. She went on to say that she would start saving any gift money she received and was hoping to get a job. Once she had enough, she was taking me shopping.
That fall, she got a job. She did exactly what she said she was going to do. She started saving her money and asked me countless times to be able to take me shopping for a good bra. “Momma, you have no idea what a good bra can do for you and your confidence. I want you to feel beautiful like you are!”
Her persistence turned to hoping the two bras I was wearing would finally fall apart (after having them for over 10 years – probably closer to 15 years – YIKES!) She made it very clear that my bras were not doing me and my body any justice and it was time for them to go.
I still resisted.
Nearly a year later and she was still talking about getting me a new bra. One of my two DID fall apart…literally. And she did a happy dance! She knew she was getting closer.
My 17 year old turned 18 and with her new found wisdom she was able to get me to cave into allowing her to make the purchase for me. Over spring break we were on our way to dinner and a movie. At the mall. The mall has bra stores…lots of bras. The mall has her favorite bra store – Victoria Secret. Jasny is convinced that she HAD to take me there because they will give me a fitting and they are so nice…
Reluctantly I followed her inside. My reluctance quickly turned to pride when I watched her walk right up to the associate and tell her, “We’re here for my Mom. I promised her a bra for Mother’s Day last year. She hasn’t had a fitting. Can you please fit her first?” It was incredible witnessing her owning this space.
While I felt some discomfort – not in the way the associate helped me or took care of me – it was all about me being in a store like that – even still, it was a wonderful experience. I was fitted for a bra and with my daughters help, picked out the one that matched my needs – basic and one that I can wear with anything (insert “boring, nude bra”) and we walked to the counter. As we waited in line she commented about how she was really proud of me and excited to be able to do this for me. She’d been wanting this for nearly a year. Crazy.
In really listening to her and her words and watching her light up, I finally softened in my experience and simply said, “thank you.” I watched her pull out her debit card and she paid the $39.50 without hesitation and we walked out of the store – her beaming.
What does this have to do with KARMA, you ask?
Two days later my daughter went to spend the night with my Mom – her Grandma. It was a Friday night and small town Friday night typically means meat raffle and pull tabs at the VFW. My fella and I spent the evening at home – me not feeling so well – on the couch with a couple movies. At 5:53pm I received a text from my daughter with a picture. She had opened a pull tab worth $152.
To be clear here…my daughter was just along for the ride and fun with Grandpa and Grandma. Grandma put in the money for the pull tabs and Jasny got a chance to open some. Can you imagine her face when she opened $152 winner!?!? Priceless I’m sure.
The next text that she sent me… Grandma gave me $40 🙂
As soon as she sent me the text, I knew. It’s karma. My daughter went out of her way doing something amazing for me – something she’s been waiting and wanting to do for close to a year. She had no desire to get anything in return…she just simply wanted to do something kind.
That’s how karma works. What we send out, we get back. And she literally got it back with a 50 cent bump!
The trick with karma and especially positive karma is doing something kind just because and not in hopes of receiving anything in return. When we are kind, loving, and compassionate, we receive that back – always. It’s just part of the way the universe works. When we are choosing to live from this space, we are rewarded – and often not from the person we blessed.
When you really understand and appreciate how this works, you’ll be amazed watching it unfold in your own life. Don’t go into a situation or experience with someone else expecting to get something in return. Just simply show up and offer yourself in a kind and loving and compassionate way and then let it go. As you let go, you’ll see and experience in another area of your life where that is coming back to you. It always does.
Side note…if you’re a jerk, karma will show up for you that way too. Choose carefully how you’re showing up.
So, I’m curious, when have you been witness to this and experienced it for yourself? I know you have…are you paying attention to it?
Make a Difference . . . Lead with Love